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Originally Posted by
mickeycrimm
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Originally Posted by
Rob.Singer
Here's something I am aware of but you couldn't be. Yes, people like to be nearby their family. I agree. But....when you get old, the LAST thing you want to do if at all possible, is burden or ask to burden your children and/or grandchildren with home care responsibilities IF YOU CAN AFFORD TO MOVE INTO A NEARBY NURSING HOME where they are easily accessible, or a nursing home anywhere!.
I couldn't be aware of what? It's not a matter of whether you can afford nursing home care or not. An elderly person who has SS as their only income qualifies for nursing home care. I dont' know if SS or the state or the feds pay for it but all elderly low income people in need of it get nursing home care.
You've jumped to a lot of conclusions. They rented an apartment near her kids and grandkids. Jean is still in good shape. It's Brad thats down. But still not disabled enough for a nursing home. But when the times comes I'm sure we will be seeing him enter a nursing home. Rob, they are not there to burden her kids, they are there to be near their kids. I just dont' know where you come up with this stuff.
I wasn't talking about whether anyone can afford nursing home care or not. It was wholly about why an elderly couple or person would NEVER choose to become a burden (in care, not money) such as that upon their children or grandchildren. People without children could never truly, clearly see that.
Yes, some old people sometimes move near their families as they decline, esp. when more help and assistance is needed. Whether Jean is in poor health or not is something neither you nor I know. What's curious is why they waited this long to make such a move if it wasn't for various assistance reasons. I'm not buying the slowly diminishing edges theory either. I've watched them gamble, feverishly, and they can't even stop when they want to talk to you.
Either way, it's all opinion and no one's gonna track any of it down. I simply believe that I understand them better than you, for multiple reasons.