Originally Posted by
LarryS
The old "farmers" daughter who has been shielded from the world and doesnt realize how nice she looks, is a person from the past. With social media and the ease in sending pictures to people around the world....you can get 'attention" that you crave, and get a swelled head. I think with social media, there are ugly girls that have been told they are beautiful dozens of times from guys on the net. You ca go on an app, ad find someone who will fuck you within the hour. Over the last 15 years things have changed
the "9 fro Bakersfield" can still be a person who has learned she can get what she wants from total stranger men with just a smile. And from any part of the country...i would steer clear.
An available "9" 30 yearsold and above that is unattached....to me must have some baggage....its a red flag. Usually you would find out after marriage as you(the general "you") would rush to marry her before someone else snatches her up.
And then what happens to the perfect "9" innocent untouched by the big city moves in with you in the big city, and goes into the work force, and has co-workers, and realizes she is hot stuff. Is in high demand.You cant bubble wrap her.
Thats why I would rather find someone on my level regionally, socially, financially,....because I would not want someone marrying me for those reasons.....because those reasons wear off after a while..
If I married the girl from bakersfield....and a big reason she would marry me is because I seemed to be "big city"........thats nice for the beginning few months or years..but as she became "big city".......I would be less impressive to her. Its good for a short time.
Thats why personalities have to mesh. 2 hard headed people will have a tough go of it. But one person naturally assertive, and one person naturally passive by nature will have a better chance.....they know right from the beginning what type of person each is...and finds it a good fit without feeling they have to change.