The reality of the situation is that other people are other people. There is no glorified ascent/descent, in terms of such personal perceptions, rationalizations and the like, to civility. The seat-at-the-table mentality. Have hammer, use hammer. But, justice is, say, color-blind. Not even a matter of making friends.

The old Kung Fu series notion that you have to become one with the tiger. One doesn't attack itself.