I am going to answer your question with a question Axelwolf.
What does it matter?
What does it matter if I am gay or straight? Or had a husband/partner? What does it matter if I am 5'8", or 6'2"? What does it matter if I am white, black, Chinese?
I have shared my experiences for more than a decade now. Is anything I have ever said about blackjack wrong? Does anything defy the math? Are any of the specific things I do, like spreading both ways, a bit of opposition wagering, tracking multiple tables to see twice the max bet opportunities, playing Counter's Basic Strategy, so as not to show different playing of the same hand, all not really good advice and knowledge? Some of these things that I have taken the time to explain are things that even some experienced card counters should say "That is smart and a really good idea"?
So I ask again, what does anything I have said about my back story even matter?
And now I will answer the question I am asking of you. It matters because all of this shit is a result of the homophobia and bigotry of people on this forum. Some of that bigotry/homophobic was hidden a little deeper than others and took a while to bubble to the surface. Not saying you specifically, nor a few others, but in general this particular forum is made up of that older, white, male, crowd, that is generally the lone holdout of gay bigotry.
Had my back story been that of a 60 year old, white, straight male, I would have not received the shit and attacks that I have endured.
So one final time Axelwolf....what does it matter?