I'll just throw this in -- I've done the full-time caretaking thing. Medical professionals will tell you, rather strongly, to get at least a couple of shifts away from the caretaking every week. I really did not, and it was a mistake long term, as things do not get better and you need to have some reserve of energy with which to deal. Video poker or going to the movies are really good options because you just zone out and give your mind a rest. If you don't get breaks, you'll physically wear down and exhibit problems, and this helps nobody; it makes the person receiving care feel guilty.

If you haven't done it, Rob, you have no idea what full time caregiving entails. You really don't. And spending a couple of days in hospital with a sick aunt or somebody doesn't count for anything. Real caregiving is like being in a foxhole with someone, and knowing you may not get out. Arci's to be commended for hanging in there. Many men abandon the post.